Lying to our children and other forms of duplicitous behavior is the only way to raise our Children.

     Imagine if you will, a married couple who are very ambitious experimental psychologists...ready to make their mark on the world.

     Imagine that this couple are ready to raise a passel of children for the sake of testing a bold and new parenting strategy.

     This bold new strategy is to determine what is the most effective methods to install various degrees of dysfunction within children. They have often pondered..."What is the best way to create children that will suffer from neurotic or psychotic traits, or to suffer from life long feelings of despair, depression, feelings of helplessness and cognitive dissonance?"

     They fully understand the damage that could be done to the children of such an experiment...even perhaps irreparable damage. But for the sake of science and the promise of learning perfect ways of raising fully functional actualized children, they feel the price is well worth the promising results.

     Try to understand that this dedicated couple are very exacting and methodical experimental psychologists, that quickly realized that they needed to find a few more pairs of parents to help them with various control groups; preferably fellow psychologists. This ambitious couple work hard to find other participants that will have all of the family dynamics as identical as possible. The same number of children. The same number of boys and girls in each family with the exact birth order of the sexes and the same number of years difference in ages.

    They decide that all aspects of each family should be the same to diminish unnecessary variations that could call into question their effects and thereby muddy the investigatory waters of their experimental conclusions. The parents and the children should be the same race and ethnic background, religion, socio-economic strata, same education. All parents should be about the same age and as close to the same physical appearance as possible. They should even share the same hobbies, interests and food preferences.

Finally the houses of each family is completely identical...all the way down to the chase lounge on the back patio

     Everything is in order. .

    All of these parents decide to meet for orientation. The originators of this experiment set up guidelines as to how each family of kids shall be raised, or to be more accurate what daily instructions should be installed into their developing brains and the prescribed actions that are to be followed; actions that are designed to cause cognitive dissonance and an over dependence to compartmentalize all of their thoughts, feelings and actions with everything that they deal with in life; or out-right fear, depression and helplessness. Wisely, they knew that this complex and ground breaking experiment would take the length of time till the youngest of the children reached adulthood.

      THE TWENTY-FIVE YEAR ANTI-BRADY EXPERIMENT

     The first set of psychologist/parents are going to randomly verbalize conflicting information and install conflicting value systems.

     The second set of psychologist/parents are instructed to not only expose the children with conflicting verbal information, but they will purposely go out of their way to act in incongruently. Sometimes the psychologists/parents behavior in this group will be unpredictable, and at other times their behavior and talk will be painfully predictable to the children within this control group.

     The third set of psychologists/parents are instructed to be consistent in both word and deed, but all of their words and actions are to be filled with negativity and a sense of helplessness. Basically they will purposely install in  the children within their care that life is filled with gloom and doom. They will be told throughout the years of their upbringing that no matter what their best efforts in any endeavor will  be -- it will be useless, hopeless. These psychologists will tell their kids "What's the point of even trying." or "Go ahead and try, but don't expect much."'

     The fourth set of psychologists/parents are instructed to purposely verbalize high-minded ideals, morals and values; yet, their mission is to purposely act in the opposite manner or to not act on what they consistently verbalize whatsoever. For example, they are instructed to verbalize how great their country is and how wonderful their leaders are; they will often extol all of the virtues of patriotism, to honesty file taxes, helping in the community. They will constantly be emphasizing ethnic and sexual diversity, compassion and tolerance. In addition, these parents teach familial love and loyalty, support, and marital fidelity. Yet, the mission of this fourth set of psychologists  in this experiment is to practice nothing that they teach and in fact they are instructed to violate each and everyone of the ideals, morals and values every chance they have.

     The fifth set of psychologists/parents are instructed to act and verbalize to the children in their care in a hyper Pollyannaish manner. They will install in the children that everything in life is just so wonderful. God in his wisdom has made it so. Even the evil things that happen to people...even the children who suffer from horrors such as assault, racism, rape, is taught to cheerfully dismiss all the evil committed against them as simply being the will of a loving God. The parents in this action are instructed to never get mad or say negative things to strangers or unreasonable bureaucrats...even if the situation demands that they act or speak harshly and to the point...they must stay the course in this control group.

     The Sixth set of psychologists/parents are instructed much like the fifth set, but instead of being invincibly good in both word and deed; they are told that they have to mix up their words and deeds to be both good and bad, to be inconsistent and confusing. It is their job to let the children know that regardless of their imperfections and sinful behavior, that all people fall short of the glory of God and that God loves all of us regardless of our sins, if and only people accept Jesus as their savior.

     If you have read carefully what the six sets of psychological protocols are; you will quickly realize that it does not take a rocket scientists to understand the implications of what effect these six protocols will have on each group of children. Nor do you have to be a Sigmund Freud, R.D. Laing, Karl Jung, Dr. Spock, Dr. M. Scott Peck, Joseph Chilton Pearce, or any number of world renown psychologists, psychiatrists or educators to understand the unspeakable evil that each of these six systems have on these hapless children.

     Where and when was this evil experiment conducted? Was it in Nazi Germany? Perhaps you think this experiment was conducted in a reclusive section of our nation and funded by the CIA much like the forty-year Tuskegee experiments sanctioned by our government between 1932 and 1972?

     Yes...sadly, horrible organized experiments sanctioned and funded by one government agency or another have happened in our country many times and are continuing to happen at this very moment.

     Who do we contact to investigate the horrible experiment cited above? Who are these soulless evil people that have perpetrated such crimes against helpless and innocent children?

ARE YOU APPROPRIATELY OUT RAGED?

DO YOU WANT TO INSURE THAT THIS TYPE OF EVIL NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN?

     Very well then. But first, if you are standing, I would like you to please sit down before I give you both the bad news and the good news concerning such experiments and the methods that can be used to insure that such travesties are suppressed.

      Now that you are seated, are you ready for the bad news?

      Okay. Here goes!

     The bad news is... the situation describe above is far worse and far more pervasive than you might imagine.

     The evil experiments describe above happens everyday...in varying degrees by the majority of parents.

     Most of the parents who commit such evil would balk at such a accusation. They would argue that they love their children and they would doubtless be able to refer to scores of people who will also tell you that the people you are accusing are in fact model parents. 

    For the record, I have to point out that I am not inferring that all parents that commit such evil acts against their children are evil through and through. I am not suggesting that the majority of parents are Ted Bundy or Jeffery Daimer evil. I am not intimating that most parents are intentionally doing their worst to become another "Mommy Dearest" or a "Deadly Dad".

    I fully acknowledge that most of these parents do love their children and more often than not display fits of reason.

I am not judging MOST of the parents; I am simply judging SOME of their dysfunctional and evil words and deeds.

Most people who commit evil...do not do so intentionally. Most evil is installed within each of us and we are often mindlessly reactive, thereby unable to chose better strategies for the application of logical, inspirational and loving words and deeds that all humans would be better suited to receive and use. 

     We are constantly inundated with negative and dysfunctional information from the day we are born: from our parents and relatives, from our friends and coworkers (especially our friends and coworkers) even from our spouse or lovers. This heartbreaking reality is not entirely our fault. Until recently, their were damn few manuals or books on the subject of avoiding such pitfalls and what methods to use to create loving, confident, creative and fully actualized people. We have suffered from even fewer choice examples of what we can achieve.

      The good news is: We have solutions to fight evil and to install within our children our friends and even ourselves optimal strategies of which we can use to navigate through the wonderful and often uncertain waters of life.

    We can become dynamic fully functioning people.

     This what all of us need to do in both the private sector, the public sector and in our private personal lives as well.

This is what my ex-coworkers need to understand, learn and then enact.

   Coming soon: A Look At Cognitive Dissonance - Will Prove These Assertions

     I cannot tell you the number of people that have told me they are not close to their parents. In fact, many people once grown, rarely see their parents, even on holidays and birthdays. Sure, they usually send the obligatory card and maybe a fruit basket, perhaps even an item that they know their parents will enjoy. Occasionally, these people even call their parents to "Check In" with them.

    Often the parents will gripe about the lack of time spent with them and the adult children are usually left fumbling for excuses as to what obstacles in life is keeping them from being model sons and daughters.

    What in the hell is going on?

     Why the rift?

     The sad fact is, most people do not have much in common with their parents. In fact, in addition to this, most people if pressed for answers will tell you that being around their parents makes them edgy. Sometimes even sad or angry from years of holding on to hurt...real or imagined; from familial events that transpired years previous.

     Does this mean that these adult children do not love their parents? Or does it mean that they really would not want a close relationship with the people who gave them life?

     Sometimes love may be absent from the relationship and in it's place may even be hate and bitterness.

Usually, however, most adult children do love their parents, but, mixed in and tainted with that love is suffering. They often suffer from varying degrees of cognitive dissonance. This dissonance is a state of mind which causes a great deal of stress for the people suffering from this malady. It occurs and is fertilized by internal conflicts in our value systems and is exacerbated when we or our parents give or demonstrate conflicting instructions or actions. Just like in the "Six Psychological Scenarios" listed above. Further more, depending on their upbringing this cognitive dissonance may stay with them even when they are long gone from their parents influence. Generally, this dissonance tends to amplify when people are with their parents such as at the holidays.

     This is why old wounds long thought buried or dead can come erupting forth with sometimes volcanic and violent results. It is the reason why domestic violence leads the pack when compared to all other acts of violence with the exception of war-time situations.

     This is also why any police officer or social worker that you talk to dread their job on the days when they get a call concerning domestic issues. These domestic dispute invariably are the deadliest to both the civilians and the police officers as well.

    Why are we so evil? A good question. The fact is, we are not given an owners manual for our bodies or our brains. We are not schooled in the art of high functioning. There is scores of literature on mental and emotional dysfunction and disease, but damn little on living holistically. We end up rushing around in life, bankrupt on many levels; chronologically, emotionally, financially, and often spiritually. .

     In the next session, I will go through a few scenarios that demonstrate what people often say to their children but what they are really saying subliminally and what their actions show what their true message and intent is

Coming Soon: Don't Listen To What I Say; What I really mean Is....

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     Some of the authors and books that come to mind which gives greater detail and understanding of the mechanisms inside the psyche of individuals and into the collective psyche influencing various group cultures I highly recommend three authors: Dr. M. Scott Peck in his various books, the most notable being "The Road Less Traveled", Dr. Philip Zimbardo with his latest and greatest work to date, “The Lucifer Effect”

and finally, Phoenix Michaels in his ground-breaking book "Who Am I?"

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